I'm not good enough

I hear versions of this all day long as a therapist. So many of us have this as a core belief. Besides not being true, this belief sets many limits for us and doesn't allow us to fully engage in life.

So where does the idea that we are not good enough come from? We may have been told this directly or indirectly by the people in our lives (parents, teachers, siblings, significant others) or often times I find that we have created it in our own minds by comparing ourselves to others. Comparing ourselves to others can be so damaging, because either we are better or worse off! If we are better off, then distance in that relationship gets created and we have a false sense of self esteem. If we are worse off, then we feel ashamed of ourselves.

Not comparing yourself to others is a great way to care for yourself and to start getting rid of the belief "I'm not good enough".

Because really you are good enough.